How To Do What Is Best For Your Relationship

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Okay guys, so I’m writing this post in the hopes that you will actually take it and apply it. It is close to my heart because I’ve dealt with it personally, and I still do. That is part of why I felt such a strong need to talk about it!

How many of you have been given unwanted advice for your relationship? I would guess close to everyone has. I definitely have. Now, don’t get me wrong, I think seeking advice for your marriage is great. You should be seeking information to better your relationship. I mean, that is a third of what I’m doing here. However, sometimes you don’t want or need it.

My husband and I have been told that we should spend less time together, that we should make each other wonder where we’ve been or who we’ve talked to about a million and one times. We have heard this since our relationship started over 7 years ago. What bothers me so much about this advice is not only that I do not agree with it for our marriage, but that many of the people we heard it from had major issues in their own relationship (If they were in a relationship at all). 

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I think that knowledge is EVERYWHERE (I’m actually writing a post on it). I do not think the people who have given this advice are stupid or are doomed to bad relationships forever. All I can say is that every relationship is different, and none of them are perfect. I don’t want anyone to take this post in the wrong way. I think that valuable advice can come from very unexpected places, but in the same respect, very bad advice can come from the same unexpected source. You have to decide what advice you apply.

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Let me just say, if Devin (my husband) and I listened to every piece of relationship advice we’ve gotten we would be in trouble. What many do not understand is that your relationship and my relationship do not have the same needs. My husband and I absolutely Love spending time together. Lots of time. We’ve worked together in the past and enjoyed every second of it. We would rather hang out with each other than anyone else. It’s not that we don’t like people, it’s that we just eat up the time we spend together. We haven’t gotten bored at all yet (we’re just SOO interesting hah), but if we do we know that it’s okay. We can just spend time doing things separately so that we can reconnect afterwards.

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My preferences may be completely different than yours, though. Maybe you get heckled for not eating together at a dinner table, or perhaps your family and friends think you should be staying home with your kids instead of treating yourselves to a date night. My advice (if you want it ;)) is to determine what is best for you and your partner. Listen to your gut, pray about it, talk to each other. I Love getting marriage advice from others, but I know that it is not mandatory to apply all of it. So many people get swayed or manipulated by the views of others, please don’t be one of them.

If you can take anything away from this, I would urge you to just be careful, use your better judgement, and put your marriage first. Don’t ignore the advice others give, but analyze it carefully. Does it make sense for your relationship? Will it make both of you happier? Not all growth is positive, use the advice that will force you in the correct direction. It is different for everyone, so just do what you know is right. It is working for us so far. 

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Let’s talk! Pretty please leave me any comments about any good or bad advice you have received in regards to your relationship. I would Love to hear about it!

P.S. If you want challenge yourself to improve your relationship, finances, and purpose each week, then check out my Weekly Challenge Wednesday videos!

 

Weekly Challenge Wednesday #4!

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This week’s challenges are…

Marriage- One tech-free night this week.

Money- Cut your drink (Starbucks/Jamba Juice/Etc.) purchases by 50%.

Meaning- Give at least one compliment each day this week.

Check the video for details!

Tell me! Leave me a comment telling me what you think of the challenges and any ideas for next week’s challenges!

P.S. If you haven’t watched the previous Weekly Challenge Wednesday videos, then come check them out HERE!

Weekly Challenge Wednesday #3!

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This week’s challenges are…

  1. Do something for your partner that you know they enjoy, that you may not necessarily enjoy.
  2. Cut your weekly grocery budget down by $10 (See my grocery list HERE.)
  3. Learn 2 new things this week.

Hopefully you guys had a great week. I’d say mine was really positive. Can’t wait to see you guys next week!!

Let’s talk! Please leave me a comment below telling me what challenges you think will be difficult or any ideas for next week’s challenges! 

WHO AM I? Discover your meaning.

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According to Dictionary.comthe definition of meaning is “the end, purpose, or significance of something.” My definition? Your meaning is who you are, and why you are

What makes you, you? Is it your logic? Your curly hair? Your spontaneity? How about your job? I think we need to look at this question differently. So often our meaning or our purpose gets narrowed down to our career choice. I believe what we choose as our job can definitely play a role, however, it is not the rule. Many people spend their lives doing a job that they are not passionate about and feel as though they never fulfilled their purpose. Perhaps your career was not meant to be your purpose…

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My mom had progressive M.S. She was wheelchair-bound since I was young and was later bed-ridden. My dad and I were her primary caregivers for as long as I can remember. My mom passed away 2 years ago- today. Why do I bring this up? Because my mom couldn’t work for literally half of her life. She never had an established career. That was never part of her meaning. Who is my mom? She is joy. She is hope. She is inspiration. Why is she? She deeply affected everyone who knew her. She inspires her 6 kids to Love others and improve themselves. She is the reason I want to help people through this blog. She was meant to be a mom and literally shape the lives of everyone around her.

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You have to ask yourself some really hard questions. Not a question of, “What career path will I take?”. Rather, a question of “Who do I want to be?”, “Why do I want this?”. These are difficult questions because sometimes you just don’t know. My husband has struggled with this a lot. He has seen many others know what they want to do with their lives at an early age, while he still seeks. He sees my passion for helping people and has wished he could feel the same about something. What many do not realize is your meaning is unique and CAN change. It may not be your job, it could be the impact you have on your brother/sister/friend/parent/spouse. It could be perseverance you show in the gym/school/home. It could very well just be self-improvement. 

Please. Let me reassure you that if you feel as if you don’t know your meaning in life, you are not alone. You can find your meaning, but you must be willing to dig deep within. This will allow you to confidently respond to that oh-so-wonderful “Tell me about yourself.” question.

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First, begin by just writing down people, places and things that you enjoy or want to do (Separate them into columns). This will get you going a bit. It doesn’t have to be single words either, it can include things like, “I Love the comfort of 100 pillows” or “Playing with my dog brings me joy”. Next, try writing down anything you know about yourself. This one can be tough, I know it was for me at first. If you get stuck, google “words to describe yourself”. Go through the words and pick ones that fit you, sometimes it’s hard to think of them on your own. Okay, once you’ve got at least 5 down I want you to ask yourself how you got to be this way. Why are you extroverted/introverted? Why are you strong, or caring, etc.? Why do you want to help people? – This was one of my questions. You should begin your response with “I want/am/Love _________ because…”. Finally, I want you to write down at least 1 goal that you have for yourself. If you don’t have one, make one.

Try to answer as in-depth as you can. This will help you get to the root of yourself. Think about your past and make connections between who/what you Love and why you are the way you are. Example: I want to improve the lives of others because I know what it feels like to hurt, and grieve, and feel like you’re alone through hardships. I don’t want others to feel this way. It brings me joy to know that I am helping others. My goal is to bring light into every single relationship I have.

You may need to take a while to ponder. It actually took me a long time to get it into words, even though it was right in front of my face. You may not make the connection at first, and that’s okay. After you’ve got it, you should write out full sentences owning who you are. Ex. “I am a smart, caring, and passionate individual. I want _______…” Once you write it down this way, you get much more confident in it. You are a unique individual. You have good qualities, and you can use these to search your soul and get to know who you are, and why you are.

You may come to find out that you have a hidden passion. You may think of a career path that you’d like to explore. Maybe you learn where to shift your focus. All I can say is that you should act on whatever you discover. Whether that is in the form of going to school, going to rehab, or being a better partner, make sure you do it. This way you know that your purpose is being fulfilled.

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Live your life, ask questions, and find yourself.

Please leave me a comment if you are struggling with any of this, I’ll do my best to help. Also, let me know if you learnt something new about yourself!

If you would like to challenge yourself to improve in your relationship, finances, and purpose each week then watch the Weekly Challenge Wednesday videos! Click HERE if you’re just starting and haven’t seen any of the videos yet or HERE for the second video.

Weekly Challenge Wednesday #2!

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Hey guys! Are you ready for another sweet week of improvement? I’m a rapper now.

If you haven’t already watched Weekly Challenge Wednesday #1, then what in the world are you waiting for?? Go watch it first!

This week’s challenges are…

Marriage- No complaining this week. If you have something to bring up, talk about how you feel not what they’re doing.

Money- Write down where you’d like to be financially in 1 year. Then write down 3 ideas of how to get there (they don’t all need to be realistic).

Meaning- Try something new, preferably something out of your comfort zone.

Watch the video for details!

Let me know in the comments which challenges you think you’ll struggle with, and what challenges you’d like to try next week! See you guys next Wednesday!

Yummy Healthy Cheap- Grocery List For 2

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Grocery Shopping. It’s weird, most people that I know dread it with all of their might. However, I Love it! There is just something about knowing that I am buying good foods for my husband and I. It just feels good. I always helped with grocery shopping as a kid, and I am the primary shopper in my marriage now. I guess I’ve always had a knack for it.

Let me just say that shopping for 2 people can be hard to do. But this list is REALISTIC. My husband and I eat kind of a lot (don’t judge us!). We enjoy snacks and decent portions. Like I often say, everyone is different. We do eat meat, but I know that others do not. You can always swap your favorite high-protein substitutes for meats. We do not eat all organic. We buy what we can organic (I won’t indicate which, because surely it will be different for you), we avoid added sugars and mystery ingredients as much as possible. This list just aligns with our budget and our desire to live healthfully. I’d just like to provide the list that we use, and you can adjust it to fit you and your partner/roommate/whoeva.

The stores that we generally shop at are Winco, Trader Joes, and Costco- If some of these are your go-to, great! I was going to indicate what foods we get from each, but depending on your location you may have to visit different stores entirely. Also, we live in California, so our prices may vary from your area. So, I will just lay it out as simply as possible! This list is for 1 month, but if you would like to split it up you absolutely can. The meats can just be purchased smaller or purchased in fractions. However, we’ve realized that buying our big meats from Costco (or any wholesale store) has been a much cheaper route. We end up buying the fruits/veggies as needed throughout the month. Any way you slice it, hopefully you enjoy!


 

Meats:

  • 2 bags chicken thighs (Costco-frozen) $28
  • 1 bag chicken breasts (Costco-frozen) $18
  • 1 bag salmon filets (Costco-frozen) $20
  • 2 Lean ground turkey (1lb. portions) $10
  • 2 prosciutto (Trader Joes-freezer friendly) $12
  • Turkey or chicken lunch meat (Deli) $15

Fruits/Veggies:

  • 2 packs spinach $6
  • 2 heads cabbage $6
  • 3-4 heads lettuce $8
  • 4 bags brussel sprouts (Trader Joes or Costco) $7
  • 4 bunches asparagus (Trader Joes) $12
  • 1 pack celery $2
  • Fresh herbs of choice $6
  • 6 spears zucchini $4
  • 3 bell peppers $4
  • 3 bunches broccoli $5
  • 8 sweet potatoes $7
  • 2-3 bunches bananas $5
  • Berries of choice $7
  • 10 oranges $5
  • 4 lemons $2
  • 2 limes $1
  • 8 avocados $8
  • Frozen fruits (Costco) $8
  • 2 garlic $2

Dairy (Dairy substitute)/Eggs:

  • 3-4 cartons lactose-free milk $12
  • Parmesan cheese $5
  • Pepperjack cheese $6
  • 1-2 containers sour cream $4
  • 2 dozen eggs $5
  • 1 container plain greek yogurt $5

Cans, Cartons, & Jars:

  • 4 cans black beans $4
  • 4 cans chopped/stewed/etc. tomatoes $4
  • 2 sm. cans tomato paste $1
  • 1 can chipotles $1
  • Fresh almond/peanut butter $7
  • 2 cartons chicken stock $4
  • 1 jar SF applesauce $3
  • 2 jars spicy black bean dip (Trader Joes) $5

Carbs:

  • 1-2 hand-ground tortillas (10-pack) $6
  • 1-2lbs. Quinoa/whole wheat pastas $5
  • 1 box brown rice (Trader Joes) $4
  • 2 loaves whole wheat bread (minimal ingredients) $7
  • 1-2 bags blue corn tortilla chips (Trader Joes) $5
  • Healthy cereals of choice $10

Misc. Snacks:

  • 1lb. bar 72% dark chocolate (Trader Joes) $5
  • Various nuts (bulk) $12
  • Extra budget for misc. snacks $10

Dressings/Seasonings/Oils/Etc:

  • Sriracha mayo (minimal ingredients) $4
  • Mustard (minimal ingredients) $2
  • Ketchup (minimal ingredients) $3
  • BBQ sauce (minimal ingredients- Trader Joes/Costco) $4
  • Replenish regular seasonings $5
  • Olive oil & coconut oil replenish $10
  • Honey & truvia replenish $8
  • Teas $8

    Alright! So our monthly total comes to……………

$382!

Now, that means that we are spending under $100/ week on food while not feeling deprived. I can deal with that. I Love salmon and snacks and lots of other stuff. If you are the same, this list should be perfect for you. Healthy, budget-conscious, and delicious!!

P.S. If you haven’t already watched the first Weekly Challenge Wednesday video, you are missing out dude! Join me each week & take challenges to improve your relationship, money, and meaning!

If you guys would like any yummy, healthy, cheap meal ideas that I use, send me a message or tell me in the comments! Also, how are you doing on your grocery budget? How do you keep it under control? Coupons, sticking to the list, eating less? Let me know!

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Marriage Mindset- It’s making or breaking your relationship.

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Today I wanted to talk about 3 mindsets that would hurt your relationship and 1 easy way to improve your mindset.

I genuinely believe that our thoughts will become us. Let’s make sure they are in the right place. We have to align our minds with our actions. It is just one thing we must do in order to improve our relationships.

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Bad Mindset #1- I can just give up.

Bad Mindset #2- The grass is always greener on the other side.

Bad Mindset #3- I’m not good enough.

How do I improve my mindset?- Love relentlessly.

Watch the video for details!


What are some tips you have to improve your mindset? Do you struggle with it? Tell me in the comments!

 

Weekly Challenge Wednesday #1!

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This week our 3 challenges are…

  1. Go on an outing with your significant other that is brand new.
  2. Limit your eating out to two times this week.
  3. Do three things that show yourself Love.

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We had lots of fun playing in the woods and looking around at the Marine Reserve!

Check back in next Wednesday to let me know how you did and get your next three challenges!

Leave a comment telling me where you would like to have your outing or what things you will do to show yourself Love. Also, let me know if you have any ideas for next week’s challenges!

7 Sure-Fire Ways to Be Happy When You’re Feeling Down

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Because sometimes you’re just having a bad day. 

Here are some methods to try to get you through it.


7. Discover a new interest.

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I don’t know about you, but sometimes I get into a bad mood as a result of boredom. I feel like I need to do something, yet I don’t want to do any of the things that I am familiar with! Why not expand your skill set? This alone will give you a confidence boost, but the hobby will end up bringing you some bonus joy. Short on money? Check out this huge list of cheap hobbies at Free in Ten Years.

6. Help Others.

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At times it seems as though you can’t get yourself out of a slump. Let others help you while you help them. On US News, psychologist Mark Snyder informs us, “People who volunteer tend to have higher self-esteem, psychological well-being, and happiness… It also improves their health and even their longevity.” You can do something as simple as taking a trip to the local animal shelter and giving the animals some much-needed attention. Maybe you can plan a visit to a nursing home. Make a difference in someone’s life, and in turn, improve your own.

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5. Cook a healthy meal.

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I Love to cook any time, however it just works wonders when I’m in a bad mood. Psychology Today tells us that, “…women were significantly happier and less stressed after eating at home, and after eating healthier meals.” in reference to a recent study carried out by the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition. If you don’t know how to cook, maybe it could be your new hobby! Create something new or pull out that great old recipe. Take your time to prep some veggies and season your meal to perfection. Your mood will thank you for it.

4. Exercise.

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I’m sure you’ve heard this one before. The problem is it is hard to have the desire to work out when you’re down. Something that I have learned the hard way is that your inspiration and motivation should not cause your actions. Your actions should inspire and motivate you. Here’s a trick. Just commit to doing 5 sit-ups and 5 squats. Nine times out of ten, I do much more. On Livestrong they tell us, “When you exercise, your body releases chemicals that boost your sense of well-being and suppresses hormones that cause stress and anxiety.” What this tells me is that I need to exercise first in order to release those feel-good chemicals!

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3. Clean house.

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You see references all over the web on this one. When your space is dirty or cluttered, you can begin to feel as though the walls are closing in on you. I personally start feeling really anxious after a while. I know it doesn’t sound like the most fun you could have, but clearing up some of your mess will help you breath a little easier (literally and figuratively). In addition, just moving around will boost your overall mood. So, get up and clean your car or the dishes that have been sitting in your sink.

2. Write it down.

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Sometimes the best way to get negative thoughts out of your head is to place them somewhere else. Paper being a pretty good option. If you feel overwhelmed, write it all down. Everything you feel like you can’t say. Paper allows all, it has no boundaries or taboo. If you’re feeling particularly inspired, try writing a song or poem. Many people find their creative spark in sadness. Writing then becomes a beautiful outlet.

1. Go outside.

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Getting some fresh air gives us more benefits than you would most likely expect. Huffington Post gives us a few reasons why going outside makes us healthier. Things like increase in vitamin D and brain function, and decrease in stress levels. You may need to just step away from your current surroundings and see that there is more world around you. Often times going outside can give you the push you need to do the other things that increase happiness.


What is your go-to when you’re feeling down? Leave a message in the comments!

 

10 Ways to Absolutely Love Your Marriage

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Sometimes it’s hard to be in a long-term relationship or marriage. There are lots of challenges, but there are even more rewards. I’ve seen relationships in which the couple is very much in Love, yet things are rocky. This is normal! But it is not normal if the rockiness persists and creates resentment. No one is perfect, no relationship is perfect. We are all just trying to figure it out. These are just some tips to help you along the way.


 

10. Touch each other. A lot.

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According to Psychology Today, “Touch is crucial in creating and strengthening romantic relationships…conflicts are resolved more easily with increased amounts of hugging, cuddling/holding, and kissing on the lips (Gulledge et al., 2003).” Now, this means that you should be making a point to physically touch your partner as often as possible. Not just when you’re happy, or in the mood! Touch each other in your down time doing nothing, when you’re driving together, even when you’re arguing and upset. It could make a huge difference if you do this consistently. Make an effort to scratch your partner’s back while you’re waiting in the grocery line instead of ignoring a great opportunity to quietly strengthen your bond. Little changes will make big ones.

Another bit from Psychology Today talks about health benefits from physical touch. It is said to be linked to lower blood pressure! Hey, I don’t know about you, but less arguing and better health is enough motivation for me.

9. Stop spending too much time on social media.

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Okay, I’m a bit biased on this topic. I’m not a big fan of a lot of social media sites. My husband and I do not have personal Facebooks. We deleted ours long ago (mainly because we felt it was a waste of time) and it has improved our lives. However, I am not saying you should do the same. This was just our preference and it works for us. You have to find what works best for your relationship. I’ll just give some information and let you use it how you please.

Huffington Post states, “One in seven people said they’d considered divorce because of their spouses’ questionable activity on Facebook, Skype, Snapchat, Twitter, or What’sApp…” Also, in a study done by Divorce-Online, they revealed that the word Facebook was stated in one third (yes, ONE IN THREE) of behavior allegations in petitions. If you do choose to use social media, then make sure you and your partner are on the same page. I cannot stress this enough! If you each are not crystal clear on the other’s boundaries, it is a recipe for disaster. I think legitimate issues can come into view through social media use, just be careful to approach and fix them correctly. Sometimes there are misunderstandings, other times you just find the truth.

Also, just using technology (Phones, Tablets, Video Games) excessively can deeply affect your connection with your spouse. Be sure that when you are spending time with them you aren’t distracted, focus on what is important.

8. Have fun.

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I’m sure you hear this a lot, but it truly is important. This one will be different for everyone, because every relationship is different and each relationship contains different individuals. Sometimes there are things you both like and agree on, other times you can’t agree on anything and feel like polar opposites. Listen, when I say have fun I don’t just mean it in the traditional sense. Your conversations should be fun, sitting in your car should be fun, going to the DMV should be fun. Perhaps not every time (You’re human. I know.), but more often than not!

You need to be able to have fun this way because there will be times when you are totally broke. Or you don’t have a babysitter. Or your flight gets cancelled. Your relationship should be prepared for these things. They are a part of life, and they can be a lot of fun.

7. Be considerate, attentive, and appreciative.

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This is one I see cited all too often as one of the largest relationship problems. Someone always feels as though the other does not recognize all that they do, or does not feel Loved. I’ve been there, my husband has been there. I’m sure you have too.

If you feel that you are a victim of this behavior, then speak up. Have a conversation with your partner that allows change and healing. I would start the talk by letting my husband know that I don’t mean to come off needy, but would like more acknowledgement and attention. I’ve noticed that these conversations go better when I acknowledge him and his positive actions as well. If he feels appreciated, he will be more willing to reciprocate. No one likes to admit it, but I think we are pretty needy by nature anyway. Also, make sure you are keeping yourself in check. Make an effort to genuinely appreciate the big and the little things. That actually ties into our next couple of points in this list.

6. Take responsibility & Better yourself.

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We all know that the only person that we can control is ourselves. I can’t make my husband do anything, but I can inspire him with my own behavior and words. If you are unhappy with something in your relationship, first ask yourself what you are contributing. My husband and I are not perfect communicators, however we are consistently bettering it. For a long time, I blamed my husband because he did not communicate well enough for me. We had countless arguments about it. It wasn’t until I started claiming some of the blame that my husband understood and accepted his own faults.

Whether you see it or not, you are most likely contributing to your relationship’s problems. It takes two to tango. I guess you could tango alone, but you don’t see it very often. When you make you better, your relationship will get better.

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5. Be intentional.

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Now, all of these tips sound good and well. However, they will not matter unless you are intentional in your marriage or relationship! You have to try in every sense of the word. You have to want and do for your relationship. You don’t accidentally say I Love you each time before you leave, you do it intentionally. You are making sure you strengthen your marriage every day. It does not just happen without action and persistence.

Couples that are not intentional risk falling into complacency. Like many other things in life, a relationship takes hard work and eternal effort. If it is important to you, make sure you nurture it the way it needs to be nurtured.

4. Forgive each other.

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This one is tough. Most couples collect baggage together. You can feel betrayed, tired, hurt, or angry. Just know this, others have survived these feelings and you can too. If there has been something you know you shouldn’t be holding on to, do everything you can to let it go. Meditate, pray, talk, cry, whatever. Get it out of your system and out of your life because it truly is toxic. It can eat away at the most beautiful connections, don’t let it be yours.

Another note. Talk to your spouse about it. I’ve had things that were hard for me to let go and my husband knows what they are. This actually helped us both. I felt relief by talking about my feelings and he knew where my head was at so he could help.

3. Make your partner feel special.

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You chose your partner for a reason. They stood out among the rest. They should feel that way. My husband and I both communicate this quite often. And it isn’t always about the words you say or the things you do, but the WAY you say and do them. It needs to be genuine. I feel special when my husband feels the words he says to me. You should be doing the same thing in your relationship.

Figure out your partner’s Love language(s). What makes them tick? Do they feel special when you give surprise massages? Or maybe it’s when you wake up early to make coffee. Everyone is unique. Sometimes it takes a single sentence, other times it’s a big surprise weekend. Find what makes your partner happy and then make an effort to do it often.

2. Be Realistic.

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You may have had a few shocking (or disappointing) realizations about your partner throughout your relationship. You mean you don’t want to watch HGTV and Food Network all day with me?? But these things should not mean you are disappointed in the quality of your relationship! This article on Bustle outlines a few ways that couples are happier by being realistic. You have to come to respect and Love each other’s differences, or there will be a whole lot of broken dreams. My husband and I are very different, but I Love who he is. We make each other better.

Make sure you aren’t making your partner feel like they don’t measure up to your expectations. Like I’ve said, you each should absolutely do all that you can to nurture your relationship. However, no one is perfect. Including you. You might not make a home cooked meal 7 days a week, and that’s okay. Your partner doesn’t get you fresh flowers every week, and that’s got to be okay too.

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1. Make your partner your priority.

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Besides God, my husband is my closest relationship. He is my priority and I am his. There is a problem if your friends, your job, or your hobby come before your relationship. You really have to  evaluate what and who you want in your life. If you chose/are choosing to spend your life with someone, then there is nothing and no one who could take their place, right? Make sure they feel that based on your actions and your words.

You are supposed to be sharing your world with your spouse. They should not just be a small fraction of it along with your spin classes and favorite t.v. shows. If you are not putting your relationship first, your partner will feel it. They will feel neglected or under appreciated, and justifiably so! If this is you, then step back and prioritize. If you know deep down that you’ve got your soul mate, don’t lose them. Take steps to put your partner above the rest.

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What do you do in your relationship that makes it successful? Leave a response in the comments! Also, join me each week to take on challenges to improve your marriage, your money, and your meaning- Weekly Challenge Wednesday #1!